I decided to make a list of people’s opinion of me, shocking

giving opinion

Apparently, Someone believes I’m a perfectionist with my relationships but I fail to realize that perfection isn’t attainable. I don’t like conflict. I help other people to prove that I’m better than them and because it makes me feel good about myself. 

But that’s not all, check out the full list: 

*Not arranged in any specific order*

So, according to people, I’m :

  1. Not emotionally vulnerable.
  2. Too interested in communication.
  3. Too ugly.
  4. Too young.
  5. A romantic.
  6. Mechanical.
  7. Too ambitious. 
  8. Too nice. 
  9. Arrogant.
  10. Unreasonable.
  11. Stubborn. 
  12. A genius. 
  13. A philosopher. 
  14. Smart.
  15. Intelligent. 
  16. Autistic. 
  17. A raw diamond. 
  18. Impressive. 
  19. Invaluably helpful.
  20. Hot-tempered.
  21. Impulsive.
  22. Structured.
  23. Messy.
  24. A disaster.
  25. Reliable.
  26. Generous.
  27. Honest.
  28. Too talkative.
  29. Shy.
  30. An extrovert.

I dare to say, dear reader, that even as you probably don’t know anything about me, you may have believed some of these things on the list before even hearing my side of the story. 

Please note: In the list, I didn’t include comments made as a result of a joke, an insult, or intent to make me feel bad — for whatever reason, maybe not even specifically directed at me but I happened to be in the crossfire — nor comments resulting from a burst of anger — caused by me or not, that they’d later apologize for (or not). I also didn’t include feedbacks giving to me when I explicitly asked for them. I only included sincere, calm, unsolicited feedback given to me in a moment of clarity from the giver of the feedback. So, many things have been left out. I’ll update to add more, as they come or as I remember more.

Of course, I don’t agree with all the opinions people have of me, neither all the negative ones— some, yes — nor all the positive ones— only some. But I tend to believe what I’m told, especially if repeated several times, even if I have my own side of the story. The keyword is “perception.” 

In this post, I tried to be as objective as possible. In a subsequent post, I’ll explain further. I will explain some context surrounding some of the opinions. In some cases, you’ll realize what appears to be negative wasn’t meant to be negative by the person giving the opinion. Other times, what appears to be positive isn’t meant to be positive. Sometimes, people tell you something about you that appears negative — and it’s really negative. But they actually like that “negative” quality about you. And other times, it’s the other way round: Someone may not like a positive quality that you have. It’s nuts.

In the subsequent post, I’ll also offer my personal view, of people’s opinion of me, and what I do about such opinions, good and bad. Stay tuned.

This post was inspired by Vladimir Nabokov who recorded more than 50 of his dreams in a diary in 1964 — ranging from the erotic to the violent to the surreal.