When we were babies we had to be fed because we didn’t know how to hold a spoon or control it to our mouths. It was unfamiliar. But as we practiced and learned to eat and, eventually, to feed ourselves, what was once unfamiliar became familiar. Today, if my mom tried to feed me, it may be cute once, but then I’d be like… “Okay, hand me the spoon, Linda!”
Make the unfamiliar familiar. That’s how you do the impossible.Brittany Kizziah Smith
Can you remember how you saw the world when you were a kid? How many things you strongly believed were flat out impossible?
But, as you grew older and stronger, your mind developed further and you gained more knowledge, all those impossibilities didn’t only turn out to be quite possible, they also became so easy that you completely forgot you once thought they were impossible.
Think of something you wanted to do but you weren’t sure if you could do. When you finally pulled it off, you must have noticed how hard it was in the beginning. And then it became easier. Did it, really, though? No, it didn’t.
The more you become familiar with a task, the more you learn how to carry out the task, the easier it becomes. Dang! I keep saying that. No, it is not the task that became easier, it’s you who became better.
Set a goal so big that you can’t achieve it until you grow into the person who can.
Stop trying to set goals that are within your current abilities. Set goals that you can only achieve if you evolve to become the person you want to be. Set a goal so big that you can’t achieve it until you grow into the person who can. If you set a goal that is within your current capabilities, at best, you will achieve it but the feeling of satisfaction you’d get would be faint. You might even feel dissatisfied after achieving the goal without knowing why. At worse, you will doubt if your current capabilities are really enough to reach the goal. And this self-doubt will prevent you from ever taking action.
If you set a goal you are sure you can’t reach unless you become a better version of yourself, self-doubt can not prevent you from taking action. The action you will take will not be to achieve the goal, geez, you already know you can’t do it. The course of action will be to become a version of yourself who can do it. If you focus on acquiring what it takes to reach your goal, before you know it, you’ll be there.
When was the last time you truly impressed yourself? When was the last time you felt deeply delighted by your hard-earned achievements?
There is fun in doing the impossible if you have the right mindset. If you don’t have the right mindset, life will be an endless struggle. Make a switch: stop trying to achieve a goal and start focusing on becoming a person who can. Focus on acquiring what it takes. Take baby steps, learn.
What if you fall into the trap of becoming a perfectionist? What if trying to acquire what it takes makes you procrastinate?
As I explained in a previous post, learning is not just about accumulating information, it is about changing. You can’t call it learning if you don’t do anything with the information you gather.
Besides, sometimes you need to test your ability to fail.
In the process of testing your ability to fail, you will have an opportunity to put what you’ve learned to use. If you’re not careful though, you will notice you’re not as good at failing as you thought you were. This is when you have to set a bigger goal. It is very important to fail a lot. To fail well.
What would you like to do but you’re not sure if you can? Leave a comment or email me, here.
Shout-out to Brittany Kizziah Smith for inspiring this article.